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Wednesday, April 22, 2009


“A weed is simply a plant whose virtues have not yet been discovered.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

first in the 2009 Garden Variety Collection

16 inches wide by 72 inches long

2 skeins (874 yds.) Handmaiden Sea Silk or Mini Maiden
Color: Straw
5000 size 8 Miyuke seed beads
#0234 - sparkle met. gold-lined crystal
Size 3 (US) needles
Cable Needle, Size 12 Crochet Hook, Large Eye Beading Needle

One plume (15 st) = 2 inches wide (blocked)

Charted Design - Beginning intermediate level - crochet hook beading

I discovered, while researching the pattern copy, that the Pampas Grass is often planted as an ornamental grass.

I also learned it is considered a noxious weed in other places. So much so that it is banned in New Zealand and Hawaii.

What an interesting dichotomy...

I m reminded of the old axiom, "you can please some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot please all of the people all of the time."

One man's weed is another man's ornamental - go figure!

And if we cannot even agree on plants, what on earth makes us think we can please all of the people all of the time about anything else?

Like who we are and what we do and say.

But the impossibility of the task doesn't stop us from trying.

Of course, I am a middle child, so I am a born pleaser. It actually pains me when someone is unhappy with me. It used to tie me up in knots.

I cried for twenty minutes the first time someone sent me an email about how they didn't like my designs, my marketing strategy, my prices, me...

Now I realize it comes with the territory. You cannot expect to put yourself out there without someone taking potshots. and email is an easy, anonymous way to do so.

The rewards I reap from opening my heart and my life to y'all far exceed the risk. You are the greatest blessing to me. I wouldn't have it any other way.

So, now I shrug it off and say a prayer for the sender, hoping he/she finds peace within themselves.

And, instead of trying to figure out what you will like, what will sell, what would be non-controversial to write, I spend the time exploring who and what I actually am, in the most truthful way possible.

Instead of trying to fit someone else's mold, I make my own. I write what I know and design what I like.

And I don't worry if some consider me a noxious weed. I know how to bloom anyway...


Remember: Garden Variety Collection season sign-ups end on Saturday. Info on the sidebar.


thaddeusrose said...

Well put. A mystery to me how anyone could complain about your designs, patterns, prices and certainly not you!

Kate said...

Its not that we don't like the look of Pampas grass - just that in the warmer parts of New Zealand it seeds all to freely and is taking over some of our native bush. Where I live (Christchurch) it's much more manageable. Love the stole!

Kim said...

What a great sentiment! Exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you.

Gale said...

This is one gorgeous knit.

Kim said...

I love your blog!I wouldn't give it another thought.